As we get older and maybe a bit wiser, we don’t want anymore drama in our lives. I see multiple posts on Facebook attesting to this attitude, you can’t miss it they are there every day. As we get older we start getting rid of attachments, but that doesn’t mean they go away.
My premise is that drama is created by circumstances in our lives and the lives of those we care about that cause us pain and concern. Drama is caused by the love we feel for others. For most of us it’s caused by those we love going through a rough patch in life. A broken relationship, illness, loss of many kinds. We can’t help wanting to step in to heal the pain, or fix the situation. It’s the nature of love to give of itself to those around it.
How we deal with drama is not always logical and clean cut. Love and drama is messy, filled with pain and uncertainty. As we age our bodies produce more pain, just wear and tear of the lives we have lived, and we just feel we can’t handle anymore. It’s not that we care less, it’s that we have more of our own pain to deal with so there is less energy to help others. For some, getting involved in other people’s drama helps to distract from a drama in their own lives that they are not ready to face.
Whatever your current stance on the drama in your life or in the lives of others, take the opportunity as a cry for prayer (if you believe in it), consider if you have walked this path in your life, do you have a piece of wisdom that can help, and more importantly, will the people involved listen or just ignore your experience. If they aren’t ready to listen to a possible solution, don’t give up on them, they are still in the forest of their grief. Stand by silently, and hold their hand. It helps just to know someone is there who cares.
So don’t run away from drama, use it as an opportunity to love someone who needs you.